The Illusion of Choice
Thursday, April 9, 2009 at 10:22AM My daughter Theory will suddenly scrunch up her face, turn red, and start to belt out a cry that has been crafted for millions of years to motivate you to act.
What is so interesting to me is how, once you figure out what is wrong and fix it, the crying immediately stops. Within seconds there are smiles, or a look of content.
What is just so amazing is how mechanical, how mechanistic, the process seems to be. A dirty diaper, hunger, cold. There are generally not that many variables at play yet.
It gets to wondering. How much of my own behavior is really equally as mechanical. Are my deliberations and choices mostly revisionist history to rationalize the actions I am taking regardless?
I once was having a discussion about decision-making and choice with my cousin Simon Confino, who like me works in the field of branding and marketing and consumer insights. Simon, who is married to my cousin Shayne who happens to be a Jungian psychoanalyst, responded in a way that stopped me in my tracks. He said, paraphrasing, we often cannot control our selves and behave despite ourselves.
This rang profoundly true to me, especially as I was working on Slim-Fast at the time. People wanted t lose weight. They expended enormous amounts of energy and thought trying to do so. They wanted, with every fiber of their minds, to eat less. Yet, all their will power more often than not was insufficient to keep them from eating. They had no choice.
Simon, who is often looking at the sub-conscious, understood that much, maybe most of our actions and behaviors, derive from these deep places from which “we” have little control. Maybe we don’t even have much self-awareness.
Does Theory now that she is wet and uncomfortable, or that she is hungry and wants milk? And as our cognitive capabilities mature and differentiate, how much remains a black box.
Well I am getting hungry now and gonna quite blogging to grab a bite to eat. 15 minutes from now when I sit down to take a bite, how much do I really know about the inputs and variables that defined my choice?

